Apr 29, 2020 | Coaching

Get out of your comfort zone!

How many times have you heard the expression “get out of your comfort zone”?
But most of all, are you sure you know what it truly means?

Let’s start from the beginning.

Your comfort zone is that lovely place where you need to make no effort at all to function in any way.
Everything comes to you easily, you feel relaxed and safe, so you’re comfortable in it.

The problem with feeling comfortable is that you don’t grow.
When you’re comfortable, you have no reason to push yourself to find a solution, to obtain a result or to simply take part in an activity; you already have everything you need to get the job done, so you rely on the skills and resources you own.

This unfortunately means you won’t feel motivated to learn something new and when you stop learning you start aging.

Maybe you don’t care about that and you’re perfectly fine with staying where you are, switching off your brain (or set it on autopilot) and avoid making any type of effort at all, but if you’re reading this article my guess is you’re not like that!

So, how can you step out of your comfort zone to keep yourself sharp and to accomplish whatever you set your mind on?
Well, before I get into that, I want to make sure you understand what going out of your comfort zone is not!

Getting out of your comfort zone has nothing to do with numbers and it’s not about performance. Therefore, going from running three miles a day to four miles a day will not do the trick. Whatever you do, doing it more or faster will not take you out of your comfort zone. Despite the effort you may make, you won’t be using new skills to achieve that.

The secret to consciously push yourself out of your comfort zone is trying new things, especially those you never ever do! That way you’ll be forced to use “parts of you” that are dormant and develop them.

 

For example, if you’re a sporty person and in your free time all you do is play tennis, golf and football, you won’t be really out of your comfort zone simply by trying a new discipline, like skiing.

You’ll just keep using the same motor skills over and over again, only in a new setting. The best way for you to experience the feeling of being out of your comfort zone will be to try something that isn’t a physical activity of some kind, something creative like painting or more intellectual, like learning a new language.

That way you’ll have no choice by digging deeper in your personal “toolbox” to find the right gear you need and if it’s not there, you’ll have to build it from scratch. That’s when you really learn, that’s when you really grow.

Now that you know what being out of your comfort zone really means, let me give you three tips to do it in the best possible way!

1 – Decide what you want to learn

Do you want to improve your leadership skills? Stimulate your creativity? Or maybe enhance your ability to focus and concentrate? Before you launch yourself towards everything and anything just to try something new, you need to know what you wish to learn, improve or master. Once you’re clear about that you can choose the activity or experience that can better serve the purpose.

 

2 – Dare!

Don’t play it safe, dare! The bigger the effort you have to make, the greater the growth will be! Don’t be afraid to try something totally new, you may even discover a new passion!

 

3 – Focus on growth, not performance

As I said before, learning and growth have nothing to do with performance. Enjoy being a beginner, be ready to make mistakes, feel uncomfortable and take your lesson away with you. Whatever you decide to try, you don’t need to become a champion or an expert at it, relax and enjoy the experience. If you join a painting class to improve your creativity, allow it to flow freely, without the constraint of your own expectations. Who cares what your paintings look like?!

So, are you ready to step out of your comfort zone and CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT?
If you are, I can help!

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